Pretty excited to be headed back to Josh’s HOMETOWN where all this began! Come hang with Joshua Coburn & I as we sign copies of “Shit That Needs Said...so you can kick all the ass”, give all the hugs, & answer questions related to travel, motivation, fitness, writing, relationships, & anything else you wanna know while sippin some good coffee! 09/18/19, 6pm at Center Ground coffee shop in Brooklyn IA!
All the honey. ~Cynn
Don’t think for a second that you should have your shit together 24/7. That is NOT reality….. If someone else appears to have their shit together 24/7, that’s an inaccurate representation of their truth. We ALL have our down days. Things catch up to us. Whether it’s work, family, personal life, or your past catching up to you…. It’s part of life. Most people just hide what they consider the less than desirable side of them. They feel ashamed that they go through this and they feel they will be judged. But there should be no shame in this. We are all human. We have feelings. We have emotions. People feel that their situation isn’t as bad as “Sally’s” because “Sally” is going through a death of a child, so they try to buck up and keep quiet. The fact of the matter is we all bleed differently, but we all bleed. “Sally” could be dealing with the death of a child, and that doesn’t mean your situation of (insert X) is any better, especially if this is the worst thing you’ve ever gone through. Your pain from losing your job could lead you through the same emotions as someone who is experiencing a break up, or someone who’s well established Social Media got deleted.
Social Media has also led us down the daily, continual path of altered perceptions. People CHOOSE to post what they do. What you see is their choice. They have full control of what is being broadcast to their “world”. This leads us to think that their life may be a certain way. Social Media is an extremely manipulated, abstract environment that is meant to persuade you. This then leads you down the rabbit hole of thinking you are even more odd and broken for having these very real and normal feelings when you are “under the weather”.
I have chosen the path of vulnerability. With my vulnerability, I allow you to see what is REAL. What is TRUTH. I am not afraid to share with you when I have down days. The days when I realize I still have healing to do. The more that people accept being vulnerable and share in their vulnerability, the more the movement gains momentum. The more others can realize they are normal, the more we can save lives. We are all uniquely beautiful. We all have something to offer. We all have great advice, we all have experiences.
Knowing that we all have our down days, doesn’t mean that “Sally’s” down days are like yours. One person may have a down day once a week, but it’s manageable. Someone else may have a down day once a month, but it makes it very difficult for them to perform tasks, and someone else may have a down day out of the blue 3 times a year and it’s absolutely crippling and debilitating. We are all linked in some way. We all have common ground. Instead of hating on one another, we should find that common ground and nurture it. Help make this world a better place. Be KIND. Don’t bite back if someone else chooses negativity. Stand taller than them. Take the high road. Rise. Use their negativity to feed your purpose and strength. Allow it to teach you just how positively beautiful you are. Feed your white light and allow your white light to embrace others.
All the honey. ~Cynn
My life was plagued with years of abuse and I’m TELLING you that even mental and emotional abuse has significant effects on your body. While you’re in an abusive relationship, you don’t realize the changes to your body and mind. They are slow and become normal.
Why was I having heart issues? Why was I losing my hair for years? Why was my body always stiff and hurting? Why did I have brain fog? Why did I always feel drained? Why did I have irritability? Why was my hair not growing back? I couldn’t possibly relate any of that to abuse. But guess what? The abuse stopped and so did my heart issues. The abuse stopped and my brain works a lot better. The abuse stopped and I became less tense. I’ve been losing my hair for 10 years now. The abuse stopped and over time I now have new hair growth! My body is HEALING! And in more ways than I ever thought possible! Mind you, the abuse was never constant and it was by more than one person. But even the times I wasn’t being abused, I didn’t know how to love MYSELF. The stress was still high and I still felt worthless. I relied too heavily on others to show me my value. That is WRONG. But I was so desperately wanting to be loved by someone.
I never knew what healthy love was. Healthy love is loving yourself FIRST. And once you do that, the universe blesses you. I learned this and then I was given Josh. He allows me to spread my wings and fly exactly as I am. He loves me for ME. He encourages my uniqueness, he praises my self love, and he cheers on my confidence. True happiness is literally healing my body. I have Josh to thank, and I have myself to thank. YOUR body and YOUR mind deserve the same love!
All the honey. ~Cynn
This picture is personal. I’ve had it in my phone for some time now with absolutely no intention of sharing it. But sometimes there’s value in letting people peak into your personal life for the sake of helping others and breaking molds. Josh has spent the past 15+ years breaking molds and stereotypes. With that said, men in particular think it’s wrong to show emotion. They are often void of expression, or only express anger. They think crying is stupid, & having a soft side makes them weak.... STOP. Vulnerability is the most beautifully amazing thing you can give to yourself and to others. Josh has no problem showing his sensitive side. If I cry, he will be the first to cry with me. Why? Because he allows himself to feel. When I’m hurting or sad, he FEELS it and shares in my emotions. It also grows empathy where it’s due. And what does a big tough muscular guy like Josh sometimes do? Falls into MY arms and drifts off to sleep while I hold him. Why? Because he deserves to feel protected while he puts his walls down too. This is an exchange of power and it has dramatic healing effects.... And guess what? Josh feels at peace when he’s touching me. So what does he do? He ALWAYS touches me. With no shame. He holds my hand, hugs me, kisses me, sleeps with his arm around me and his leg over me. Sometimes we wake up looking like a tangled up pretzel. And if he wakes up, he will grab my arm and rest his head on it and go back to sleep. Josh carries the weight of the world on his shoulders. His desire to help others is strong and untouchable, just like him. He is the most confident person I have ever met. He is also the strongest MAN I’ve ever met because he’s not afraid to be vulnerable and express emotion. I love him for every little thing that he is and does. He’s imperfectly perfect.
All the honey,
Cynn
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All the honey,
Cynn
